No, I don’t want to be a Tufted Titmouse with a beak full of Husky fur, and I don’t really want to grow up, but this guy looks wise and I ran into some wisdom today that changed my life , , ,
A Titmouse with a beak full of fur is focused – on nest-building.
Not being focused on any single thing is a stick I have used to beat myself up for all of my life.
My purging tasks have brought this to the forefront in a big way as I unearth the strata of my existence on the planet: painter, teacher, gardener, photographer, graphic designer, web designer, polymer clay artist, video maker, glass artist, jeweler, business woman, traveler, writer, journaler, inventor, illustrator, blogger – yada yada yada
Yes, all of these are somewhat united under the “art” umbrella, but EACH of them could be a full time passion, that I could excel at with focus and concentration.
I actually am pretty good at them anyway (not bragging – just making a point about something that will come along in a minute). BUT – I have always longed for the focus to complete works of art that are mind blowing – because they took years of focus to create.
I have known many artists and creators for a very long time. I run into some of them and they are STILL doing the same thing – only doing it so much better because they have concentrated – and not gotten bored and moved on as I have.
We are taught by our culture, in no uncertain terms, that concentrating on a single pursuit is a good thing, and if you can’t do it, you are a flibberty-jibbit, a scatterbrain, and all the other not-good things to be.
If I had given all those answers above when asked what I wanted to be when I grew up, it would have entertained when I was five years old, and shocked when I was eighteen. But, I had no idea then that all those things would come to fascinate me at one time or another.
When an interest comes for me – I really dive after it. I learn all I can on the subject, and do it until I understand it enough to use it as a conduit to communicate my ideas.
Then, I don’t necessarily quit doing it, but I will often go do something else with the same fervor.
So, I have called myself a self-sabotager more times than I want to remember.
But, today, I ran into something so wonderful, that I have to share it with you. I know many of you resonate with everything I have just said.
So, here is a TED Talk that just changed my life.
It is 12 minutes long – 1/5 of a therapy hour. I urge you to take the 12 minutes right now, or save it to come back to if you can’t “listen” right now.
This is new information, but something we knew inside all along. We just didn’t know we knew it, and we surely did not know it was ok.